VIBRATORS AND THE FEMALE ORGASM

Why is it that women don't talk about their orgasms? At least I've not heard the women I hang around talking about their orgasms. And, I get strange looks when I want to talk about my sex life. I don't think it is all that strange to want to talk about a normal human function.

And, the men I have talked to, and the erotica I have read, all seem to indicate that men love the way a woman looks when she is cumming.

So, why do women shy away from a subject that is so endearing to men?

Are we really ashamed of our sexuality, or is it that we have never been taught the language necessary to communicate about orgasms and what is necessary to achieve one. Sure, they are talked about in women's magazines, but I have never read a "how to" description that would help a woman explain, in depth, to her partner (male or female) how to get her off.

Me, I have an easy time visualizing, or feeling what I want done - but, how to put that: put your tongue here, rub your finger there, pinch my clit this way, rub my G-spot that way into words that won't have me fumbling and mumbling all over myself in the middle of a great make-out session is still a mystery to me.

I can write about it all day long. In fact, that is one of the reasons I started this blog - the fact that I CAN write about it - but, have a difficult time talking about it. I hope that will change over time. That I will start being able to talk about it more.

Also, I would like to talk about BDSM, and other "taboos" of the bedroom.

It isn't just men who like a little diversity or "slap & tickle". Me, I LOVE being tied up and brought to the edge of orgasm over and over, but not being allowed to sip over the edge into release. I enjoy pain with my sex. I like being told what to do, ordered what to do. It gets me hot and wet just thinking about being submissive in the bedroom.

But, not so much out of the bedroom.

I am not a collared submissive. I am, however, in an agreed upon relationship. For example, I am allowed to masturbate, I'm just not allowed to orgasm unless I have been spanked first. Now, I can ask anyone to spank me - but, to be honest I just can't imagine asking anyone but my husband. So, my orgasms are controlled. Which, works for me, and wouldn't work for a lot of other women. But, for me, it makes the experience more intense and satisfying.

And, just in the past six months or so I have learned the value of a really good vibrator. And, I'm 47. I love my vibrators. I have loved learning how to use them to their best advantage on myself. I love it when my hubby uses them on me when we are having sex.

But, I believe in buying GOOD vibrators. The Doc Johnson special generally doesn't last long for me. There are quite a few good ones out there, unfortunately Amazon doesn't carry many of them, but I have attempted to put up on this site the better ones that they do have. If you have any questions about vibrators, please feel free to ask. Surprisingly I have tried MANY. And, I have opinions about them. Which I will start talking about in the future.

Well, it is late and I am tired. So, it is off to bed for me. Nighty night all. Sleep well & remember to Play Passionately!!!

Whimsical-Annie