Are you Visual, Auditory, Tactile...What Turns You On??

What turns you on?

As sure as Venus is different from Mars, it is different for men and women.

Men are very visual. Women tend to like what they can feel and hear.

This short Q&A from iVillage sums it up nicely...


Foreplay For Men


by Dr. Patti Britton

Q

What can I do to turn on my boyfriend? What kind of foreplay do men like? --iVillager "S"


A

Usually it's the men who are screaming, "Tell me how to get her going!" It's nice to see a woman asking this question for a change. Good for you for asking!

Often a man is stimulated sexually by what he sees -- men tend to respond to visuals, while women tend to respond more to what they hear and feel. That said, some men do need to be touched or cajoled into action more directly. The first and basic rule is to ask. Ask him what he likes, needs and wants as a turn-on. Try doing this at a quiet, intimate time (but not necessarily in the bedroom). For example, you might initiate a discussion over coffee about what each of you finds to be a turn-on. If your man needs to be touched, then any form of gentle, careful and caring caressing of his genitals, and even his nipples, should do the trick. You can do this with your hands, of course, but you can also use your mouth or even your breasts. Believe me, it will work.

Personally, I like what I can read. And, erotica is what does it for me.

I just LOVE really well-written erotica.

For me that means: Novel length, a good story line, lots of sex, BDSM, or at least lots of good alpha male dominance and female submission. Call me a throw back, but I just get off on being dominated during sex. I can get so wet when I am reading that style of erotica that I can leave a wet spot on the living room furniture (through sweat pants), when all I was doing was sitting there and reading.

Isn't life glorious? Ya gotta love it.

The last book I read was by a writer using the moniker of "Powerone" - and let me tell you he is GREAT!!! I was wet for three days while I was reading that book. I couldn't get sex off my mind. In fact, I still have thoughts of the book running through my mind.

I think it was the bondage that did it for me. I really enjoy the feeling of being immobilized during sex. The "you can do anything to me and I can't do a thing about it" feeling. I'm out of control and not responsible for it. At the same time, someone else is totally in control. There has to be total trust in that situation.

There is also the fear of anticipation, the pain mingled with the pleasure of orgasm and the total - and I do mean total release that comes from an orgasm you have when you are tied up. It is a totally different feeling from any other orgasm you will ever experience.

I'll have to bring out my list of favorite books at some point. Right now, it's 2:30 in the morning and I'm going to go and try to get some sleep.

Whimsical-Annie